IMPULSE
well, i have seen myself lecturing on this topic for the past month, might as well...
impulse - my definition: an immediate reaction.
impulsive - my definition: someone who does something out of his/her immediate reaction; reflex; usually, he/she acts before he/she thinks.
actually, this topic is very simple. i am impulsive. i am aware of that. however, there is something in me, now, that allows me to be more careful when it comes to being impulsive. i would often find myself in a difficult situation when i act out of impulse.
probably, we tell ourselves that it is human nature that we act out of these immediate reactions. for example, after a terrible date, a couple would decide to call it quits. as exaggerated as it may sound, this is a perfect example of impulse. no one thinks. contrary to the human nature that many people may claim, i think that there are many ways to fight this being impulsive.
one strategy i use is trying to look at the big picture. sidenote: i apply this to myself and to the people i usually share thoughts with. using the example i used above, when we look at its big picture, we can see that the couple just had a terrible date. this date may have caused frustrations but it does not justify for an immediate break-up. in these cases, i would hear rationalizations on how this might be a glimpse of the relationship. of course that is not true! when we look at the big picture, the couple should ask themselves: what do we have together? it would usually mean, a commitment to be with each other and to love each other. afterwards, they should ask themselves: does an isolated date carry enough weight to justify a break-up? how come? from here, people would usually see things more clearly.
what i mean here is in impulse, we're clouded by everything and anything under the sun. thus, our actions would tend to throw out or to take in EVERYTHING and ANYTHING under the sun. it's like the saying "throwing the baby with the bathwater." we easily conclude and thus, act based on this conclusion. we should be wary about this and try to avoid being impulsive as much as possible.
because in the end, impulsive behaviors have a tendency to be dangerous and hurting not only to oneself but most especially, to other people.
we don't want that, do we?
